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How Writing About Self Taught Me About Myself

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Spending the last month writing about myself taught me quite a bit. To wrap up this month’s NaBloPoMo, I wanted to share a few things I’ve learned this month..


1. There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert.

2. Confidence is the key to success.

3. Conformity isn’t a necessity.

4. My thoughts/ideas are valid.

5. Peace of mind is invaluable.


So tell me, what have you learned about yourself lately? Let’s discuss in the comments!


Hope Amongst Uncertainty

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I’m not 100% certain of anything. While I may not be 100% certain about my life, there are a few things I hope to still have as I get older: happiness, good health, sound mind, and the ability to write.

Very few things scare me more than to have any of these things taken from me. What gives you hope in a world of uncertainty? 

Reignited Passion

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Blogging has reignited my passion for writing, specifically creative writing. Each writing challenge I’ve participated in (NaBloPoMo, #XD30, #Love: A Musical Retrospective, etc) has reaffirmed that my passion is indeed my calling.

I write with the goal to one day escape the monotony of cubicle life. To wake up at some abnormal time (anything before 10 is considered abnormal to me) to spent 8-10 hours padding someone else’s pockets is ridiculous. Especially when you have the skill set to be able to support yourself.

Entrepreneurship here I come!!

Be True to Self

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When I created this blog, I didn’t think that people would “get” me. Looking back, it’s funny that I really thought that. There are billions of people on this planet and I still didn’t think anyone would understand where I was coming from.

I’m so happy to be wrong.

Blogging taught me that I’m good enough as I am. I write what’s on my heart, not what I think I should write about. It’s humbling to know that I’m not the only person who hates Red Lobster as a date option or sees the beauty in thunderstorms.

People know when you aren’t being authentic. Life is too short to live a life not true to self.

About My Writing Voice

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My writing voice is heavily infused with my personality. The words chosen are honest and at times, brash in their delivery.

When writing, I take the same devil’s advocate approach that I take when conversing. I’m well aware that my thoughts and opinions are deemed unpopular and I don’t particularly care.

In all honesty,  there’s no place for groupthink in writing nor in life. All I know is how to be me in everything I do.


Fragmented Inspiration

Inspiration is fickle for me. It’s difficult for me to sit down and think of something to write about. It never works that way. It makes it really hard to plan blog posts ahead of schedule when my blog is mostly based on inspiration.

I could be watching a television show and a quote could really stand out similar to what happened in Ornamental Relationships. Or I could be engrossed in a conversation via Twitter about crappy dates and The Red Lobster Date evolves.

Oh, and let’s not forget the times where I just get a fragment of a thought. That’s the worse. The fragment may not ever see completion. Until then, those little nuggets of potential awesomeness just sit in my notebook, phone, and/or laptop, patiently waiting for their moment.

Then you have the moments when inspiration hits and you have NOTHING available to record it. This always happens to me while I’m in the shower or driving.  I end up having to repeat it out loud until I can record the thought(s).

Trying to recapture lost inspiration is impossible and if I happen to grab a piece of it, it’s never the same as the first go around. Finally, I stockpiled my bathroom and car with Post-it notes are a tremendous help. No more forgotten moments over here.

My fellow creatives, how does inspiration come to you? Is it easy for you to sit down and create? Or do you need to live and allow inspiration to come to you? Leave a comment so we can discuss.


#XD30-Chapter 1-Lumps and Watermelon

“If you swallow the seeds, will a watermelon plant grow in your gut?”

I couldn’t help but laugh. Even though it’s a cheesy joke, it’s still amusing.

“Are you even supposed to be eating right before your procedure? ”

Susan snorts between bites. “Derek, this is my third biopsy in 6 months. Let me eat this blessing from Mother Nature.”

I roll my eyes. “Fine.”

Hospital visits have become as normal to us as Target visits. Before every procedure, we have what I refer to as “The Talk”.

I clear my throat and close my eyes. “So, if the lump is benign, we go on with our lives. If it’s malignant…”

Susan throws up her well-manicured hand. Watermelon juice ran down her arm.

“I don’t want to talk about that.”

That was odd as hell. Usually, Susan and I would recite the plan with ease. Something wasn’t right and I didn’t know how to address it.

Here goes nothing.

“Babe, what’s on your mind?”

Susan is silent. There’s sadness in her piercing green eyes. I hate seeing her like this.

After a deep sigh, she wipes the tear developing in her right eye.

“What if this lump is malignant?! I’ve been lucky before, but what if that’s not the case now?! I could lose any chance of having children and…”

Her voice trails off as the nurses come in to prep her. Fighting back tears, she reaches for my hand.

“I’m truly scared.”

My stomach sank. Susan is tough. I could feel the fear through the grip she had on my hand.

“I love you. We will attack whatever the results are head on.”

She smiled. The nurse was motioning for Susan to get into the wheelchair. She puts her hands on her hip and faces the nurse.

“I can walk you know.”

That’s my girl.

Susan raised her right arm and gave me a thumb’s up. I watched the chair go into the hallway and around the corner.

I patted the small box inside my jacket pocket.

#XD30 Summer Writing Challenge

“Summer Love” is the theme for the 2013 #XD30 Writing Challenge. From June 1 to June 30, participants are required to write a short story (or series of stories) consisting of at least 250 words daily.

Disclaimer: Participants are NOT allowed to pre-write their stories. Stories are to be written once you hunker down to write.

Please note that the theme is subject to the participant’s interpretation. You don’t have to write about the sunny side of love all month long. Let the warmth of the sun bless you with a wicked sense of creativity.

The title of the stories must be formatted as the following:

#XD30-Day (however you want to format the day)-Title of Your Chapter

An example: #XD30-Day 1-Love in Headphones

Participants may share their stories using the platform of their choice as long as they share using the hashtag #XD30 via Twitter.

This is going to be all kinds of fun!

Thankful: Stress Relievers #XD31

English: Effects of stress on the body.

English: Effects of stress on the body. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Stress wrecks havoc on my body. When I was in college, I would get walking pneumonia once a year. It sucked. Stress, lack of sleep, and bad eating habits broke down my immune system. It was miserable. When I graduated in 2009, I realized that I needed to find coping mechanisms to deal with stress before it takes over.

Here are a few things that help to relieve stress:

Bath and Body Works Stress Relief Body Wash

Bath and Body Works (BBW) has these AWESOME stress relief body washes from their aromatherapy line  that comes in soothing scents such as eucalyptus spearmint, eucalyptus tea, and vanilla verbena. I don’t know what BBW puts in these washes, but as soon as I apply the product, whatever was stressing me has washed away.


Of course I would say writing, right? Guilty.


A nap can do me a world of good. Seriously.

Honey Chamomile Tea

A hot cup of honey chamomile tea feels like a soothing hug. Goodbye stress, hello calm.

How do you relieve stress? Sharing is caring you know.

Thankful: Inspiration #XD31

Inspiration can come from anything. I could be taking a shower, driving around, or shopping and inspiration will just show up. I always make sure to keep something on me to jot these ideas down because they won’t stick around long. At the time I’m writing this, I have at least 50-60 ideas derived from various inspirational moments.

That’s a lot of writing.