Category: Reflection

Believe In Yourself First

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For the past three months, I’ve been working on a manuscript that began as a writing challenge. When I  discovered that I could submit an unfinished manuscript , I jumped at the chance. So here I am, splitting my time between editing the manuscript and writing this blog post.

I know that I’m good at telling stories. By no means am I bragging, but I know that I’m good. The problem is that I didn’t believe this manuscript was good. I didn’t believe that I had a manuscript that was good enough to be published.

To boost my confidence, I sent a few chapters to a friend of mine. She’s an avid reader and has NO problem letting me know her opinion. I was so nervous waiting for her to finish reading. I remember sitting around watching TV and being bombarded by text messages asking where were the remaining chapters.

It was that moment that I realized I needed to really believe in myself. While my friend believes in me, none of it matters if I don’t believe in myself. There are so many dreams I want to come true however, none of it will happen if I don’t believe it will come true.

Just believe in yourself and the rest will fall into place.





Denzel Washington on Dreams & Goals

Lakeisha Poole posted the following video to a Facebook writing group. Denzel Washington drops some knowledge on dreams & goals that must be shared.



Relationship Accreditation

How awesome would it be if relationships were accredited?

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Colleges and universities are accredited by multiple organizations. Multiple factors are involved in order for the institution to maintain its accreditation (e.g., reputation of faculty, quality of education, objectives and/or goals, etc).

In relationships, individuals would be given an accreditation rating ranging from 1 (awful) to 5 (awesome) based on various factors (e.g., stability, past relationship behavior, drive, etc).

To calculate the relationship accreditation, add the individual ratings and take the average of the sum.  For example,  if a 4 entered a relationship with a 5, their sum would be a 9, which would make the relationship accreditation a 4.5.  What’s great about knowing someone’s individual accreditation is that you would know ahead of time that you could be dealing with potential awesomeness (or a nightmare).

Talk about potential peace in the valley.

My Version of Success

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Back in September, I received my Monday Motivation email from Britni Danielle. In the email, she asked subscribers the following question:

What does success look like to you?

Next was a series of questions designed to inspire the reader to work towards creating the life they really want. What initially appeared to be a simple exercise was really eye-opening and I wanted to share it with you.

Am I happy?

If not, what would make me happier?

I feel most successful when?

I really, really want to accomplish __________.

What’s stopping me?

Is that just an excuse?

How can I overcome it?

Today I will do________ to get me closer to_________.

(After you get through the questions, the reader is instructed to  jot down a brief description of his/her ideal life using the following questions.)

What do you do for a living? Where do you live? What do you feel like? Who are you sharing it with?

That’s the end of the exercise.

When I finished, I felt so relieved. Not because the exercise was difficult, but because I realized that successful was within my reach. Prior to receiving the email, the idea of success was so overwhelming. The email helped me evaluate what was preventing me from accomplishing my version of success. I printed multiple copies and placed them all over my home. A visual reminder for me to do something daily to work towards my version of success.


No More Tomorrows!

There are 29 days left in this year.

TWENTY-NINE DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To make matters worse, I know I didn’t take advantage of every day. I was a firm believer in “I’ll do it tomorrow”. Well, tomorrow came and tomorrow left just as fast.

Success doesn’t come by sitting on my assets *giggles*. What I can do is make the most of each day that I’m fortunate to see. There are a lot of goals that I want to accomplish and I have to put in the work get them accomplished.

So, I got proactive during my Thanksgiving break. In order for me to get serious about being successful, I need to get organized. Take it back to my college days.

I brought a book-sized daily/weekly planner. One central location for me to keep track of blog posts, writing contest ideas, etc. Since the planner starts in January, I printed off a blank December calendar so I can get things started.

There are already four posts planned and tentatively scheduled for December. Yay me! I’m determined to make the best of the 29 days left in the year. No more tomorrows for me!

Analyzing the Bright Side of Failure

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Failing numerous times to accomplish a task is incredibly frustrating. You give all that you can, and it’s still not good enough.

What’s the point in consistently trying if I’m consistently failing?

Honestly, it’s so much easier to throw in the towel. But what does throwing in the towel accomplish?

The ONLY thing it accomplishes is telling that voice in your head that it’s been right this entire time.

There’s no growth in quitting. Give yourself time to process and regroup.

When you’re ready, start picking the task apart. Note your approach step by step to the task and its result. Think about how you can possibly fix each piece and then think about how you can make that fix even better.

Most importantly, remember that nothing worth having is ever going to be easy to obtain.

If I can’t get this one thing accomplished, who’s to say that I’ll get everything else right?

If you’ve failed at something numerous times, you know how important it is to succeed. And you’ll be damned if you fail the rest of the journey.

Now go out there, work hard, and give failure the finger of your choice.

**This post is dedicated to JoJo. I hope this motivates you to continue on your journey.**


Everyone Isn’t Going to be Your Cup o’ Tea

The inspiration for this post is two-fold. First, a good friend of mine has a crush on this guy. Everyone  in our social circle got the memo with the exception of the guy in question. I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt. He could really be oblivious to how she feels about him (which I low key doubt) or he could be awkward when it comes to women (which is most likely the case).

Weeks of getting him to open up went by.  Progress would be made, but she couldn’t penetrate that wall he installed. At this point, she’s annoyed and on the cusp of being over it.  Honestly, I can’t blame her. At some point you get tired of putting forth all this effort for little to nothing in return.

Remember when I said that this post was two-fold? Here’s the second part.

While browsing through my YouTube subscriptions, I ran across the below video from Qaadir Howard. Everyone isn’t going to be your cup o’ tea, no matter how awesome your personality may be…and that’s perfectly fine.  Check out the video and leave a reply with your thoughts.